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100 Happy days, Day four and five

I know I missed a day.

So I figured I would do the two together.

Day four 01/06/2015

My clever girlie’s went to nursery today and instead of chosen yes/no basket to put their name tags in while answering the questions.  They had to write their name on a yes or no board It was amazing to see them so excited and made me realise how well they will get on in school when they start in September.

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Day Five 02/06/2015

Have to say highlight of today was my one year old she was very cuddly and even pats my back and rubs my hair she can make anyone smile with her cuddles.

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Relax go with it no children are accidents to close together and no parent is unprepared!

This is something that frankly I hate.

People ask if your child was planned I reply no the response it oh so she was an accident then.

NO please do not call my children accidents.  They may not have been planned but I knew full well what I was doing and what could happen.. Even with my last I did not find out I was pregnant till 6 months gone nearly she was not an accident.

I can not stand to hear parents call their own children accidents like they did not want them.  No child should be brought up to be told you was an accident.

Another thing my children where not born to close together…..You say it as if having kids a year apart is a bad thing like oh that’s bad them poor kids born that close together.  Where is the evidence that a child suffers from it? There is not any why because its a load of rubbish.

I have my 9 year old son and he was an only child for 5 years yes he got all the time in the world with me but missed out on the sharing and having someone else to play with.

I then have twin girls 4 another girl 3 and another girl 1 now you see why people say I had them to close together.  Well I did not I love my children and to be honest I would not go back and wait extra years….Why because my girls have learnt a lot from each other.

I potty trained my twin girls just over 3 years and immediately my 3 year old who was then just 2 started copying in their steps within a week she was potty trained because she wanted to be big like her sisters where seeing them ditch the nappies made her want to.

Yes it can be hard at times but also a great reward to see all 4 girls sitting and playing with a ball rolling it to each other.  They have learnt what each other like and dislike and amazingly comfort them or watch over each other in nursery.

One of my girls is not a great talker but you can guarantee if she wants something one of her sisters tell me.  Now this is not me saying my son is not the same because he is but not to the same level.  He is no where near as close or comforting to them as they are to each other which is why I wish he had a sister/brother to grow up with.

And another thing people like to comment on if you go out and forget something.  Or you leave your sons lunch bag at home or get your child weighed and forget the red book or because you are rushing about at 39wks and after to buy everything for the baby.

You hear people including parents saying they where unprepared.

Every parent is unprepared no matter how many times you go through it.  There is always something that you forget to pack in your hospital bag despite doing it over and over.  There is always that bottle/bib you forgot when you go out for the day.

There will always be a couple or single parent rushing about at the last minute to buy things because they though they had time.  I know because no matter how much planning you do not matter how many tick lists you write and check you are never fully prepared for this wonderful new life that is coming planned or unplanned.

I am fed up with seeing parents been put down because they where not planned or did not have a schedule in the first years.  Honestly no child will go by a schedule I have tried some days it works others it does not.

Because your darling baby may always feed every 3 hours and normally at 1pm you might plan to cook dinner and eat it from 11:30-12:30 but there is no guarantee your baby will sleep till then and not decide to have an extra bottle.  I know it has happened to me plenty of times.

I would take 2 bottles with me for my son for a 5 hour trip you can guarantee sometimes I had to go buy the prepared milk carton because he was extra hungry.

All planning and tasks and schedules do is add to the mess.  You fuss trying to get things done on time which makes your stressed when it does not happen which your baby and children pick up on.  Having children was in no way created for us to force them into things.  Such as routines babies should not be fed at certain times only and sleep at certain times only it is their body.  It would be like someone telling you that you had to sleep 9-6 every night and eat breakfast at exactly 7am dinner at 1 and tea at 6 it is not possible and its something you would not like.

I understand some children with disabilities such as ADHD etc need routines I agree with that but while they are babies and toddlers let them be free follow their footsteps and their routines because eventually they go to school and you miss out on that time with them and that is when they will need a routine.

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How I keep my kids entertained in the summer

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So the fact is people think for kids to have a lot of fun in the garden it requires money and lots of toys when in fact it does not.  Till a year ago I had no garden toys basically just a paddling pool, and the plastic ride on cars.

So I got creative I so wish I had pictures of this I do but for some reason I can not find them.

I would tape cardboard boxes together flat on the floor and cover with paper.  Giving the kids paint and wearing just a swim suit they I would let them paint,  They would roll around in it making imprints of their bodys on the paper and and have a paint fight.  The kids love doing this unfortunately they use all the paint but the fun they have is amazing!  When/if I find pictures I will add them.  I have however added rainy day ones from when we do it in the house just not as messy or as much space

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So as you can imagine this much mess in the conservatory you can only dream of the mess outside!

Along with messy paint there is mud kids love mud love playing in it making a mess and in general laughing at mum and dads faces when they see the mess.

Unfortunately pictures are old and not very good as they where scanned

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Number 2!!! Also another great thing paddling pools unfortunately ours has burst so needs replacing but this is something all kids love and it cools them down parents tend to moan about the house becoming wet but what the hell kids need to have fun even if it is running in and out of the house wet.  Another cheap and fun thing to do!

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Now my kids love the idea of running through/under water.  I did not want to pay loads of money getting one of them toy sprinklers cue the pound shop.  They had a garden sprinkler that works just as well and only costs £1!

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Then there is cars and pushchairs my kids love nothing more then racing in the garden with their pushchairs.  Fun and uses their energy and knocks them out for the night,  Along with bikes and a sand table if only I had a bigger one that small thing for 5 kids really causes some arguments!  but still a lot of fun!

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And the recent ones we have just got these which the kids love as well trampoline and swing/sea saw.  Great fun and big enough to share!

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And last what my one year old loves to do in the garden simple.

Playing with pop up tents and balls

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So you see money is not needed for having fun in the garden yes it adds games and such things but you can still make your own fun with no or very little money

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In the words of buggys lets get rolling

So in the last 9 years I have had many buggies. Singles and doubles, Tandems and strollers.

But lets be honest there is not perfect buggy because well everyone has different views and likes what one person thinks is amazing and the bees knees is to heavy for someone else.

My first buggy was good at the time remember this was like 9/10 years ago!

A pushchair which you fitted the car seat on top of.  So here is a picture (not my picture) of the buggy I had my first ever buggy.

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So the thing about this buggy was it was great light you could remove the car seat and keep baby asleep in it.

Downsize it was still the same width when folded and it was still quite big.  You could easily see baby but getting the car seat on and off when baby was heavier was harder.  It was in the end just a simple buggy or it would be now anyway with the latest gadgets on buggies these days.

My next buggy was one similar to this one. It cost me like £30 new it was simple light weight and umbrella fold great!  Bur boring I got bored quickly of it.  By the way we are still on my first child! And he was maybe 1 by this time lol  So this is a picture its similar to this.

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Cue me buying yet another one for my son.  I got this one at a car-boot sale for £15 I believed it looked great couldn’t wait to test drive it as I had carried my son there and got him in it immediately! So it felt great to push but was a pain to fold and after so long again I got bored and wanted something else.  By that time my son was to old for one anyway.

So here it is probably the best buggy I had with my son if only it folded easier! (picture not mine)

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So cue the twin now you can guess how hyper I was in 2010 to buy a buggy from the fantastic new ones there was and to be buying one for twins!

So my first buggy was a obaby twin side by side simple umbrella fold Looked great and was light weight felt great to push. Reclined seats and specious and 2 shopping baskets amazing! Downside the handle bars are not suitable for short people! If your as short as me 5ft then your arms hurt from having to stretch so far and when your walking up the hill its like your doing exercises which ends up putting your in pain!  So after 3 months bye bye my first twin buggy.

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During the first 2 months I also bought a single buggy so it was easier getting on and off buses  I would carry one baby in the sling and one would be in the buggy.  This buggy is great if you have twins and don’t want to push them both and carry one.  Very light weight and means that when you get to someone’s house you can remove the car seat and put the twin your carrying in the buggy and both babies are safe.

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My second buggy was an Icandy this buggy was amazing you could have carseats carrycots or seats.  You could have one car seat one carry cot.  The height of the handle was adjustable so my partner liked that aspect most where to small and meant him bending over to push it!  Truly an amazing buggy with a lot of features. You could also use it as a single.  It has tabs one yellow one blue so you knew which seat when in which place.

Downside don’t get pregnant or back problems!! This buggy is heavy I had to give it up after just 6 months because I was pregnant and it was just to heavy to push My partner was no impressed after I spent £500 on a second hand one!

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So my next buggy was this low handles and light weight easy to push.

Downside not much space for babies and to big side to side awkward getting on and off buses and don’t even think about if someone else is on the path with a buggy its like buggy wars because of how wide it is but the plus side is the bar is not just 2 handles at either side there is just one long handle! yay

Next up hauck duo put it this way no test drive was done….. Why? because it fits through most standard doorways apparently? what a load of rubbish I put it together couldn’t get it out my living room so had to fold it into the hall wouldn’t go through my front door outside would not fit through my gate so immediately asked for a refund or alternative because clearly it was not small

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So the next one unfortunately I can not remember brand or have a picture.

It fit through the door just and was very light and small great for getting on and off buses This was almost the last double buggy I had if it had not been so hard getting around shops I would have kept it.

Cue the worse ever buggy to get never even look at one seriously! It was a double buggy but like a single small to be used for a baby from around 2 months and one from around 8 months.

Smallest in the back biggest in the front.  Back seat reclined from seat did not.  Weight of it was like 4 buggies seriously the handles way to high for someone 5ft and not far enough out for my partner to push because he kicked the buggy when he pushed it constantly worse buggy ever.  Forgot about the part where when its laid down the seat actually comes further out then the handles!

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Almost forgot about this one. Quinny speedi not a bad buggy but top long and heavy again.

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And last amazingly my last child who is now one bless her has only ever had one buggy this one

So here is a mother care one a old versions.

Like the icandy but cheaper and not as equipped.  You can have seat unit or car seat.

Does not weigh to much and handles adjust.  Downside sometimes going down/up curbs the front wheel turns and the buggy tips forward there is an art to doing it so it does not do this,  Which after a year of having it I have mastered.

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So in my honest opinion my favourite buggy was the icandy expensive but fun and stylish great as long as you do not have a weak back or are pregnant.

The worst would have to be the babzee twin one in front of another its like a mountain and weight the same as about 4 buggies.  test drive as many buggies as you can there is no law in your putting your buggy up and pushing it round the house it it does not feel right or there is a slight thing you don’t like in the house pushing it send it back!! It will be worse outside!

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Dads are just as amazing and important to.

So fathers day is coming up and I want to do something big and different for my dad this year.  You see to me he is the best dad the most amazing dad anyone can have.  Now I know everyone says that but he is and reading this you will see why.

My dad deserves to be rewarded I am one of 7 kids all his.  For the last 18 years he has gone without many things for his kids.  He has slept in the living room on a sofa and is still to this day looking after my little brother who has some disabilities.

You see my dad has always put us first, He would when we lived with our mum after they split pick us all up and drive us to school and my mum to work then take us all home again.  He at one point ended up sleeping in his car for some time without a home but still came to us every day to take us where we needed to go.

He would watch us while my mum went on holiday abroad take care of us.  He carried our blankets and pillows back and forth from our house to his when we had to stay there and he did not have any.

We eventually moved in with him full time.  And none of his kids made life easy most parents think one of their children coming home once a week drunk is hard and tough.  My dad had 5 of us to watch.  Needless to say most of us drank every day, drugs, got pregnant, crime etc I however was to shy and push away from it because I saw my brothers and sisters do it I seen the consequences I ran away from that life.  I spent most of my time with my nana or in my room.

I do not blame my dad for how things went he did what he could with very little money 7 kids and grand kids and not much support from family or anyone else.  He was an amazing dad he made sure we never went without.  He would not eat for days just so we could and a lot of it just got thrown back in his face.

Now I am 27 I have 5 kids myself and realise how hard it must have been for him to watch some of his kids spiral off the path like that yes things are sorted now obviously not perfect but who is?  But I have my partner and only 5 kids and I can only image the hurt I would be in if I was ever in the same situation as him.

He has not had a holiday in over 15years hes not really had time off been a dad even now at 60 yes 60 hes looking after my little brother 21 who has learning disabilities and can not look after himself.  He suffers a lot of medical problems yet even to this dad he puts us first.  He does not eat to make sure my brother has his food if money is low.  He ensures my brother has the best birthday and Christmas he can.  And he still does anything for us and yet still gets taken for granted.  Asked to take my brothers/sisters shopping for food.  To peoples houses anywhere and he is like a personal taxi.  Me however I realise that its time for him to be able to have time to himself and enjoy the time he has left.

He has never met anyone famous before never been to a concert or anything like it.

So this year for fathers day I am spending £150 on him for  2 tickets to see Frankie Valli and the four seasons he deserves a lot more then this he deserves a holiday somewhere away from family drama but right now this is all I can afford.

You see it may take time but everyone is rewarded at some point somehow in their life for their hard work.  I hate to see so many posts and newspaper articles blogs and similar talking about another dad who up and left while his girlfriend was pregnant or just had a baby and how amazing the mum is doing.  People need to realise that sometimes dads get left with the kids and without support but still do everything they can to make sure their kids get everything they need.

So you see I write this post to say that to me my dad is amazing and the best there is I believe there are other dads out there who are struggling alone with kids without a mothers help they need to be recognised and praised because lets face it they do the job just as well as mums do.

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100 Happy Days Day Three

Day three 31/05/2015

An amazing Sunday.  Smiling a lot for a change.

I wrote a letter to my future self making a note of the things that I want to change and achieve in the future.

It made me realise a lot about my life I have over looked in the past few years.

A full day without any bumps or scrapes as well for any of the kids!

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Letter to my future self it is the start of a new me

So after seeing someone post this on twitter and their blog I realised what a great idea it was.

I do often thinking about the negatives in life and don’t take time to really see what it going on around me or enjoy it.  I am always that busy and on the go that I have not accomplished anywhere near what I wanted to,

Life has certainly not planned out the way I wanted it to and I have just been going with it kind of floating on top of the river it taking me rather then me choosing where to go.

Here is my letter if you can not read it I apologise its been years since I have hand written!

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As this is my first time I won’t have done great I am however happy with it.

Just writing it made me realise a lot of stuff, I do feel lost and unsettled I have never really felt settled and at home since a very young age 7/8 years old This is something I struggle with.  I feel like I have lost control of everything in my life at the minute like I have been floating on top of water letting it take me any direction rather then me choosing the path to take I do not any longer feel like I have time to myself or time to enjoy family life.

There is a lot I would like to do and accomplish but I am starting small.  I would love to be able to take time out for myself I mean myself not every 5 minutes checking on kids or work.  And I want to be able to spend more time with the kids and watch them grow.  My main mission is to get time alone with my partner maybe a night or a weekend we have not had this in over 4 years! Something I miss.  I would love to be able to start writing more on the blog I enjoy doing it but often don’t find time and it does not get visited in weeks.

My biggest hurdle will be letting go of the past it often comes back up and reminds me of things which makes me down and that is when I close off and just go with it rather then choosing my path.  I know it will be hard to stop thinking about the past but if I can not then I need to find a way to deal with it maybe writing a blog?  Not 100% sure yet though.

Most important is remembering that kiss every bedtime saying goodnight to all my kids I would hate them to fall asleep without me giving them a kiss goodnight.

So I am intrigued to see what has changed in 2/3 months from now.  Why not write a letter to your future self?