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100 Happy days, Day four and five

I know I missed a day.

So I figured I would do the two together.

Day four 01/06/2015

My clever girlie’s went to nursery today and instead of chosen yes/no basket to put their name tags in while answering the questions.  They had to write their name on a yes or no board It was amazing to see them so excited and made me realise how well they will get on in school when they start in September.

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Day Five 02/06/2015

Have to say highlight of today was my one year old she was very cuddly and even pats my back and rubs my hair she can make anyone smile with her cuddles.

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Relax go with it no children are accidents to close together and no parent is unprepared!

This is something that frankly I hate.

People ask if your child was planned I reply no the response it oh so she was an accident then.

NO please do not call my children accidents.  They may not have been planned but I knew full well what I was doing and what could happen.. Even with my last I did not find out I was pregnant till 6 months gone nearly she was not an accident.

I can not stand to hear parents call their own children accidents like they did not want them.  No child should be brought up to be told you was an accident.

Another thing my children where not born to close together…..You say it as if having kids a year apart is a bad thing like oh that’s bad them poor kids born that close together.  Where is the evidence that a child suffers from it? There is not any why because its a load of rubbish.

I have my 9 year old son and he was an only child for 5 years yes he got all the time in the world with me but missed out on the sharing and having someone else to play with.

I then have twin girls 4 another girl 3 and another girl 1 now you see why people say I had them to close together.  Well I did not I love my children and to be honest I would not go back and wait extra years….Why because my girls have learnt a lot from each other.

I potty trained my twin girls just over 3 years and immediately my 3 year old who was then just 2 started copying in their steps within a week she was potty trained because she wanted to be big like her sisters where seeing them ditch the nappies made her want to.

Yes it can be hard at times but also a great reward to see all 4 girls sitting and playing with a ball rolling it to each other.  They have learnt what each other like and dislike and amazingly comfort them or watch over each other in nursery.

One of my girls is not a great talker but you can guarantee if she wants something one of her sisters tell me.  Now this is not me saying my son is not the same because he is but not to the same level.  He is no where near as close or comforting to them as they are to each other which is why I wish he had a sister/brother to grow up with.

And another thing people like to comment on if you go out and forget something.  Or you leave your sons lunch bag at home or get your child weighed and forget the red book or because you are rushing about at 39wks and after to buy everything for the baby.

You hear people including parents saying they where unprepared.

Every parent is unprepared no matter how many times you go through it.  There is always something that you forget to pack in your hospital bag despite doing it over and over.  There is always that bottle/bib you forgot when you go out for the day.

There will always be a couple or single parent rushing about at the last minute to buy things because they though they had time.  I know because no matter how much planning you do not matter how many tick lists you write and check you are never fully prepared for this wonderful new life that is coming planned or unplanned.

I am fed up with seeing parents been put down because they where not planned or did not have a schedule in the first years.  Honestly no child will go by a schedule I have tried some days it works others it does not.

Because your darling baby may always feed every 3 hours and normally at 1pm you might plan to cook dinner and eat it from 11:30-12:30 but there is no guarantee your baby will sleep till then and not decide to have an extra bottle.  I know it has happened to me plenty of times.

I would take 2 bottles with me for my son for a 5 hour trip you can guarantee sometimes I had to go buy the prepared milk carton because he was extra hungry.

All planning and tasks and schedules do is add to the mess.  You fuss trying to get things done on time which makes your stressed when it does not happen which your baby and children pick up on.  Having children was in no way created for us to force them into things.  Such as routines babies should not be fed at certain times only and sleep at certain times only it is their body.  It would be like someone telling you that you had to sleep 9-6 every night and eat breakfast at exactly 7am dinner at 1 and tea at 6 it is not possible and its something you would not like.

I understand some children with disabilities such as ADHD etc need routines I agree with that but while they are babies and toddlers let them be free follow their footsteps and their routines because eventually they go to school and you miss out on that time with them and that is when they will need a routine.

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Letter to my future self it is the start of a new me

So after seeing someone post this on twitter and their blog I realised what a great idea it was.

I do often thinking about the negatives in life and don’t take time to really see what it going on around me or enjoy it.  I am always that busy and on the go that I have not accomplished anywhere near what I wanted to,

Life has certainly not planned out the way I wanted it to and I have just been going with it kind of floating on top of the river it taking me rather then me choosing where to go.

Here is my letter if you can not read it I apologise its been years since I have hand written!

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As this is my first time I won’t have done great I am however happy with it.

Just writing it made me realise a lot of stuff, I do feel lost and unsettled I have never really felt settled and at home since a very young age 7/8 years old This is something I struggle with.  I feel like I have lost control of everything in my life at the minute like I have been floating on top of water letting it take me any direction rather then me choosing the path to take I do not any longer feel like I have time to myself or time to enjoy family life.

There is a lot I would like to do and accomplish but I am starting small.  I would love to be able to take time out for myself I mean myself not every 5 minutes checking on kids or work.  And I want to be able to spend more time with the kids and watch them grow.  My main mission is to get time alone with my partner maybe a night or a weekend we have not had this in over 4 years! Something I miss.  I would love to be able to start writing more on the blog I enjoy doing it but often don’t find time and it does not get visited in weeks.

My biggest hurdle will be letting go of the past it often comes back up and reminds me of things which makes me down and that is when I close off and just go with it rather then choosing my path.  I know it will be hard to stop thinking about the past but if I can not then I need to find a way to deal with it maybe writing a blog?  Not 100% sure yet though.

Most important is remembering that kiss every bedtime saying goodnight to all my kids I would hate them to fall asleep without me giving them a kiss goodnight.

So I am intrigued to see what has changed in 2/3 months from now.  Why not write a letter to your future self?

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Triumph Over The Trampoline

So yesterday we decided to cut the grass and sort the garden out.

I say we I mean my partner while I watched well watched the kids.

He cut the grass I chased the kids around stopping them from running under the lawn mower.

I was relieved when that was over thinking the most dangerous thing now was the swing and sea saw and one of the kids running behind it and then me having a bust lip or nose to deal with and I do not do good with blood let alone a child running round screaming bleeding for me!

I was wrong though my partner then went on to pulling the dismantled trampoline out.  Not a small thing no the type that are 13ft with enclosure great for locking kids in to keep them safe lol.

So off we started trying to put this trampoline up while watching the kids and making sure then 1 year old did not run into the swing or sea saw. We got the base up well that is what I would call it the metal legs and large circle lol.

Kids by now where hyper running round and bouncing all over waiting for it to be built now it was time to add the springs and what I call trampoline mat on.  I though simple till I realised how much you had to pull and stretch the springs out.  I imagined them flying in all directions windows getting smashed, kids getting hurt and neighbours complaining.

Trying to get the kids in the house behind the window to watch so they are safe and no springs that fly off can hit them was a challenge with 6 kids. Every time we though they where all there one would poke their head round the door or the conservatory.  I felt like I was just chasing kids and telling them to stay there for half an hour.

But we did it then was the time to put the poles on that you attach the net to.  Not easy when you have kids running under the trampoline rolling in wet grass kicking it up.

And to rub salt in wounds we got visitors my partner left taking one of the kids with him and them but we got left a dog to watch.  Now most would be thinking that’s good swapping a kid for a dog but bad your one parent down.

Yeah that is till you realise they took the kid that likes dogs and left the one that screams and runs from them.  Operation keep child calm watch kids and dog while adding netting to trampoline.

Finally finished I was looking forward to the peace the trampoline would bring now the kids can play on it.  I was wrong commence screaming arguing and kids getting hurt every 5 seconds.  But at least the child scared of dogs was no longer running crying to me hiding every 2 seconds!

So yesterday was in a way a success hectic but fun to look back on!